Pause, Rest, Reset

Today things came crashing down. Literally this tree beside the garage split yesterday in some crazy wind and had to come down. It was pushed passed its capacity, cracking, bending—it was only a matter of time before it would come crashing down.  

This morning I came crashing down. I forgot my why. I lost sight of what really mattered and my anxiety crept in and fears over took me and things came crashing down. 

What am I doing?

I can’t handle this.

I’m not good enough.

It spiralled out of control and came crashing down on the people I love most, my little people, the small innocent souls just trying to be. These are the hardest moments of motherhood. When our capacity is stretched thin and we are falling.

Thankfully, I have become aware of this spiral, I have learned to give myself grace and compassion.

I reminded myself, like I have so many times with big and little things.

Just three steps. 

pause. rest. reset.

Pause

Lean in and get curious, why am I feeling anxious? What is really upsetting me right now? What am I actually feeling? Is it real? Is it true?

Rest 

Allow yourself time to rest and recover. For me this can be a quick shower, a short nap, time with a book, an entire Saturday of nothing, or a week away from social media. This can be whatever you need. It can 5 deep breathes, 5 minutes or it can be two weeks.

Reset

Take time to come back to what matters, to refocus your energy and come back to where you need to be. Sometimes this can be as simple as redirecting the plan for the afternoon like I am at my capacity so I am not going to take the kids to the park today or I feeling overwhelmed by social media so I am going to delete some accounts before I re-engage or mornings are stressful so I am going to plan to prepare breakfast for the week and ask my spouse for help.

Pause. Rest. Reset.

This has become a mantra for me lately. To slow down, to feel all the emotions and give myself grace and space to allow it to unfold.

Today, it was only a short pause, rest and reset—but some times I require a long time to pause, rest or reset.

By giving myself grace to feel, to understand and to dig deeper into what I need and want to truly live out my purpose- I am bravely stepping into the life of purpose I am craving.

So the next time you feel yourself spiralling. Give yourself some time to pause, rest and reset. Afterwards you can bravely go out and pick up the pieces.

xo

Morgan